This post has come about because I have a colleague currently going through some pretty tough personal changes. As much as we all try not to have our personal issues not affect our work lives you can certainly tell when someone has a lot on their head and they are facing difficulty in dealing with the commitment to attend to both work and personal life . So this post is really for him and anyone out there going through some changes. I wanted to share some tools that help me.
I am the kind of person that does not ponder too long on things that I have no control over. That, to me is wasted energy. Too many people fret over things that are beyond our control. In turn, stress unnecessarily. A stressful commute can ruin your day if you are powerless to change your time or route of travel. So once you accept that you are powerless to a certain situation you can control your attitude towards it, and control your stress! Feeling as though you have an element of control is important, so look at ways to manage your situation, rather than worrying about it.
It takes a while to train your brain to think a certain way but below are a few techniques that I have found helpful and hope they can help you or someone you know.
1. Focus on the solution and not the problem. If you focus the majority of your time on the problem what do you think is going to happen? You are most likely to sink into it! How, When, What are you going to do about it? Once you direct your energy on the solution you will be much more proactive and more positive about resolving it.
2. Be creative. We often think the solution will be something more difficult that we dismiss the easy/brave or fun thing to do about the resolving the issue. Get out of your comfort zone, be a little braver.
3.Change your attitude. Don't limit your options by thinking there is only one right answer. This often leads to 'paralysis of analysis'. Solutions are often elements within the existing situation.
Those are my main go-to step process when I have something bothering me. These can be used with almost anything whether its a business problem or personal situation.
Lastly, regret is also a waste of time. I strongly believe that we learn far more from our mistakes than we do our successes. So don't spend or waste time worrying or stressing about your 'shoulda coulda woulda', acknowledge it, learn from it and move on. It comes back to the 3 points above. Once you train your thought, change your attitude and focus on the solution with a little creativity, you will hopefully have a little more peace of mind. I am not guaranteeing a 'happy ever after' here, but adopting a positive approach or attitude can certainly help break mental barriers.
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